Frustration - 8 Ways to Deal With It by Catherine Pratt

Frustration - 8 Ways to Deal With It

by Catherine Pratt
www.Life-With-Confidence.com
A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. - Winston Churchill

The emotion you’re feeling is “Frustration”.
With a capital “F”. Maybe even add in some anger because you’ve been working really hard towards your goal or on a project and it just isn’t working. Or you feel like you’re stuck in a dead-end job and can’t find another one. And you may not even really know why. All you know is that you seem to be stuck and no matter how hard you try, you don’t seem to get anywhere. You’re just spinning your wheels in the mud and all you feel is pure frustration. Sound familiar?
This is the point where a lot of people will just say, “I Quit” and give up. Before you do though, here’s 8 ways you can blast through any frustration:

1. Ask Yourself, “What Is Working in This Situation?”
Even if feels like nothing is working, look closely and you will probably find at least something that is going right. So, that’s good. You’ve found something that’s working. Now, how do you improve it? By asking this question, you’ve taken yourself out of the negative mindset of “it’s hopeless” and are back to focusing on the positive.

There's something that’s working and that will give you a clue of what direction to focus on. You may find that even if your previous issues come up you’ll be able to resolve them in the process of concentrating on your improvements.

2. Keep an Accomplishments Log
Write down everything you accomplish in a log. If you do it in a monthly format you will be able to see all that you have accomplished in just one month. You may be surprised by how much you have done. If you realize there’s not much on the list, it may open your eyes to the fact that you may be procrastinating more than working or that you are using too much of your energy going in too many directions and that you need to focus more. Hopefully, you will have lots of items on your list then you can see that even though it may not feel like it, you are moving forwards. The log will also help to highlight where you were the most effective and where you need to work harder.

3. Focus On What You Want to Happen
Go back to the big picture. What is the desired outcome? Sometimes, we get so wrapped up in one problem and trying to solve it that we forget what we were originally trying to accomplish. Try not to ask yourself, “Why did this happen?” Asking questions like that will keep you rooted in the past. It doesn’t offer a solution to the problem. The important thing is knowing the answer to the following two questions:
- What do you want to happen differently this time?”
- What do you need to do in order to get there?

4. Remove the “Noise” and Simplify
When you’re trying to solve a problem, you can get so wrapped up in trying to find a solution that you add unnecessary clutter, noise, and tasks to a project because you thought they “might” be a solution.

Working on this website, I get bombarded by offer after offer of “easy ways to run your website”, “get more traffic”, “make more money” etc. They’re just noise though and usually a waste of my time even reading them. These people are just trying to make money off of me. They have no interest in whether I succeed or not. When people are frustrated by how slow the hard work process is taking, they get tempted by these “here’s what you’ve been missing” and “I’ll make it easy for you” offers. Usually, it ends up that if you do get tempted by the offers you discover 6 months down the road that if you had just stuck with your first plan and just kept working at it, you’d be a lot further ahead by now. Not to mention richer from not having spent money on the Get Rich Quick schemes. Believe in yourself. Simplify and go back to the basics. Determine what is really necessary and remove everything else. Anything that takes your time and effort that isn’t adding value, should be eliminated.

5. Multiple Solutions
You always have options. You just need to brainstorm and figure them out. Tell yourself you need to come up with 8 possible options to what you’re dealing with. Just knowing that you have lots of options will help to make you feel better. You won’t feel like you are trapped in one negative situation. From your list, figure out the best direction and go for it.

6. Take Action
When you get into serious frustration with a problem, you tend not to want to work on it anymore. It’s hard, it’s frustrating, and you’re not getting anywhere. So, anything to avoid having to be in that situation may be far more attractive. Procrastination may start to set in. If you can keep taking steps forwards, you will probably make it past this temporary hump. As Thomas Edison said, “Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up” and “Surprises and reverses can serve as an incentive for great accomplishment.”

The other thing that can happen is that you start to spend a lot of time worrying. Worrying is a definite waste of energy and does not move you in a forwards direction. Only taking action will. Once you start moving forwards again, you will most likely find that you worried for no reason.

7. Visualize a Positive Outcome to the Situation
A lot of times you can get stuck on focusing on what you don’t want to happen or fearing the absolute worst thing that could happen. The top athletes of the world will imagine themselves competing flawlessly over and over again. There is no room for failure in their minds. This is what you need to focus on as well. See yourself achieving your desired outcome. What will it look like? What will it feel like? What will you say? How will you feel? Take the time to visualize it and really feel it. It will inspire you to keep moving forwards.

8. Stay Positive
Things are usually not as bad as they first appear. Sometimes, things seem much worse simply because we’re tired or mentally drained. Taking a break and remembering to keep your sense of humour can also help. This time of frustration will pass. A positive mind is far more open to solutions and answers than a negative one that thinks it’s just “hopeless” and thinks “what’s the use?” A closed mind will not be able to see the possible solutions when they do come along. Stay positive.

As with any problem, the solution is to figure out what your options are, decide on a plan, focus, and then take action. By using the above 8 steps, you should find that you’re running into fewer problems and feeling less frustration. Instead, you may find that you’re running into opportunities and you know exactly how to take advantage of them.

Kasih Sayang...

Buat yang bernama Kasih Sayang...

Apabila hati kita penuh dengan kasih sayang dan penerimaan, kita berkasih sayang terhadap orang lain...kasih sayang yang diberikan walaupun sedikit, ia mampu mengubah seseorang...

Dengan kasih sayang, yang jahat, degil, panas baran, pemalas semuanya akan berubah menjadi lebih baik jika ditundukkan dengan kasih sayang...

Kasih sayang adalah satu yang unik...ianya perlu dipupuk walaupun ia nampak sukar...ada kalanya diri ini terlalu sibuk untuk memberikan sedikit kasih sayang kepada yang memerlukan...

Kasih sayang yang abadi...lahir dari hati...lahir dari hati yang ikhlas...sukar untuk aku katakan yang kasih sayang ini boleh diukur....kasih sayang...kasih sayangku tidak pernah luntur walaupun untuk sesaat jika aku menghadiahkannya kepada yang memerlukan....

Kasih sayang....kasih sayang itu sifatnya lembut....begitu ku rasa berkasih sayang jika aku dapat menghadiahkan kasih sayang ini kepada dikau...tapi kadang kala kasih sayang tidak dapat diucap dengan kata-kata...kasih sayang kadang-kala dizahirkan melalui perbuatan...aku sukar untuk menzahirkan kedua-duanya dalam satu masa...ada kala aku mengucapkan kasih sayang ini...ada kalanya aku menunjukkannya melalui perbuatan...sukar untuk menjadi aku...

Sesungguhnya kasih sayang ini ada masanya perlu dizahirkan dari mulut ke mulut...ada kalanya dari hati ke hati...ada waktunya dari mata ke mata...ada harinya dari telinga ke telinga...ada masanya dari tangan ke tangan...ada hitungnya dari setitik darah ke setitik darah aku hadiahkan kepada dikau....

Mungkin kasih sayang ini masih tidak direncanakan sepenuhnya kerana masa dan jarak memisahkan kita...dikau di sana...dan aku di sini...aku pasrah jika hidupku ini ditakdirkan untuk menanti...disini ku pasrah menanti sayang...

Sambutlah kasih sayangku dari jauh ini.... loves...
loves,
sha

Tutup Akaun FB Sementara Waktu

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...
Assalamualaikum.... First of all dua tiga hari ni saya rasa saya perlu tutup akaun FB saya buat semantara waktu....dengan limpahan msgs masuk setiap hari hampir 300 msgs masuk membuatkan saya sedikit stress untuk check semua msg tersebut....tambahan rata-rata msgs berkisarkan politik....dahlah kerja pun setiap hari mengadap berita politik, msgs masuk kat handset pun politik ..haha lama-lama sy boleh pengsan camni ....so tadi dah tutup akaun fb....mb sekali-sekala je sy buka fb pasni ... :)

2ndly dalam mingguni macam-macam masalah dapat diselesaikan...alhamdullilah .... saya percayai melalui muzakarah....banyak perkara akan dapat diselesaikan sekiranya kita sharing each other...sekurang-kurangnya bila ada masalah, you have to put it on d table, you can't hide it for long time...coz dalam hidup ini, ada masalah yg boleh kita settlekan sendiri dan ada masalah yang perlu diselesaikan bersama...insyaallah kalau kita berniat baik, Allah akan permudahkan segala urusan kita...amin Ya Rab...

Ok yang ketiga, bulan depan, kawan saya ajak pergi kursus kahwin...hi hi...mula-mula memang rasa tak mahu pergi, tp kawan serumah beria-ria ajak pergi...so saya cuba bagi peluang pada diri saya untuk bukakan sedikit ruang di hati ini untuk pergi kursus kahwin....kawan serumah kata, dulu pun dia tak berapa hendak sangat pergi kursus yang macamni, al-maklumlah semua tak ready lagi...ha ha so setelah dibasuh banyak kali oleh kawan serumah, saya cuba untuk beri peluang ini pd diri saya, hi2 mana tahu pasni terbuka pintu hati hendak membina masjid secepat mungkin....instead hari dua tiga hari ni, pun saya rasa macam hendak bina masjid...tapi tu lah...susah nak cakap pasal jodoh dan soalnya hati ... apa-apa doakan yg baik2 untuk semua orang..itu je yang saya selalu pesan pada diri saya....

oklah setakat ini sahaja....pasni nak sambung semula membaca pasal middle east country ... :) pagi tadi dah banyak membaca pasal kesihatan dan bayi...so petang ini saya membawa diri saya jauh dan ajak otak saya berfikir tentang middle east country....come on brain, u can think so far if you love reading sayang...haha selalu pujok diri macamtu saya ni..haishhh...oklah...tk care all...loveu all...

loves,
sha

Gathering With Kawan2 Kolej -10 Feb 2012

Bismillah...
Assalamualaikum .... saya sebenarnya tak tahu nak story pasal apa...cuma kali ni mungkin nak story pasal gatehring dgn kawan2 kolej dulu ...

Dah hampir 4 tahun kami tak bertemu...empat tahun punya janji nak jumpa daripada dulu, akhirnya semalam kami berjumpa...

Kami makan di Pece Lele Kampung Pandan ...

Masa berlalu dengan pantasnya...selepas empat tahun meninggalkan kolej, masing-masing sibuk dengan kerjaya...dan dalam masa 4 tahun ni jugalah masing melalui pengalaman suka dan duka dalam mengejar apa yang diburu ....

Mula-mula sampai, macam biasa kami bercakap mengenai pengalaman masa di kolej sedikit, pasal pensyarah dah ada banyak anak, kawan-kawan yang dah kahwin, pasal kerja ...

Kemudian masuk ke fasa dua, cakap mengenai jodoh...hi2 jodoh lagi...tu lah nak cuba lari daripada topikni, tapi mesti x dapat nak elakkan...masing-masing menceritakan pengalaman cinta masing2....alhamdullilah ada di antara kawan-kawan saya ni yang bakal mendirikan masjid pada penghujung akhir tahun ni dan ada awal tahun depan....saya doakan kalian semua....cuma tinggal saya dan seorang lagi kawan yang tak buat keputusan lagi apa-apa pasal kahwinni...

Lepastu kami pergi ke Dataran Merdeka ambil gambar sebagai kenangan sikit-sikit...masa di Pece Lele punyalah malu nak ambil gambar masa tengah makan...haha takut orang keliling tengok...so decided ambil gambar di Dataran Merdeka...

Lepas ambil gambar sembang sekejap dan bincang pasal nak pergi melawat kolej dan pensyarah-pensyarah semula di Pahang...kemudian bincang pasal bercuti ke Pulau Jeju di Korea...percutian ke Pulau Jeju ni mungkin adalah percutian terakhir sebelum masing-masing mendirikan rumah tangga....kiranya ni last bachelor vacation...hehe ntahlah kalau tiada aral melintang, insyaallah akan pergi bila sblm hujung tahun ni ... mudah-mudahan Allah permudahkan semua urusan... amin...

Loves.. -sha-

Sew In Love ..

Assalamualaikum ....

Hai ... permulaan pembukaan tahun 2012 bermula dengan hobi baru...
Saya mula suka menjahit..baru membeli mesin jahit dan sy sangat-sangat teruja untuk belajar menjahit...

Saya akan mengikuti kelas menjahit selama setahun dan saya sangat-sangat tidak sabar mengikuti kelas menjahit...

Di Jepun, budaya menjahit diterapkan kepada semua tidak kira laki mahu pun perempuan atau peringkat umur sama sekali pun...Budak-budak berusia seawal 10 tahun sudah diajar menjahit...hw sweet kan???? :)

Tapi di Malaysia ... umur macam saya 29 tahun ni pun masih tidak reti menjahit...keh3x...whatever...tp skang baru ada rasa nk belajar menjahit...setakat menjahit seluar koyak atau baju koyak sebelum ni retilah tapi nk jahit benda yg lebih sukar lagi agak tidak retilah seperti baju kurung, baju melayu, baju bebudak dan lain-lain macam langsir ke pencil case ke, comforter ke...waa byk nya nk jahit...x sabarkan bila dah reti nanti...

Harap-harap saya dapat menjahit dgn sempurnanya....insyaallah ... :)

loves,
sha

Semput Days

Salam...

Dah lama x upate blog ni...bz dgn keje n belajar... x sempat nk fikir banyak perkara lately..

Dah 9 hari demam termasuk semput... kene sedut gas... kene pg amik darah sampai 5 kali...kene buat x ray semuanya tu menguji kesabaran tambahan lg kalau di saat kita sdg sakit tu, ada byk perkara lain yang perlu dibuat juga....

Jarang sakit then kene duk umah, rasa cam suri rumah ... yg sebenarnya jarang ada kat umah waktu siang, sy merasa skit janggal dgn keadaan ni....terasa bertambah sunyi n sepi duk umah di siang hari...

Agaknya inilah perasaan mereka2 yg jd suri rumah selama ni.... tambahan yg xder anak dan x der aktiviti yg hendak dibuat...sy x tahu camne nk praktis supaya membiasakan perkara ni dlm hidup sy...kalau...kalau suatu hari nanti sy kene jadi suri rumah...sy dah kene plan ape nk kene buat....harap2 sumenya dipermudahkan nanti...

o'oklah sy dtg singgah jap je blogni...x der mood nk tulis juz tulis ape yg terlintas sj dan terdetik di hati ini....

loves,
sha

BZ DAYS ... ALWAYS ... :) I CAN'T MAKE TIME TO UPDATE MY BLOG... HIKS .. :D

Assalamualaikum....

Alhamdullilah bertemu kembali walaupun saya sudah lama tak sempat nak update blog ni....

Agak sedikit busy lately ni...byk perkara terjadi dlm beberapa bulan ni...maka banyak kali jugalah saya terpaksa membuat keputusan mengikut keadaan...

Bercakap mengenai kerja...banyak pengalaman baru yg saya timba...especially di parlimen...macam-macam ragam MP ada....baik dr BN mahupun PR...

Soal belajar pula...hanya tinggal tak sampai 3 minggu lagi saya akan menduduki exam...skang sibuk dgn mid term test dan assignments...lecturer semester ni best2..alhamdullilah semua memahami...cuma tak sedap hati bila ketua kordinator selalu check saya datang kelas ke tak? selalunya dia akan tanya pada kawan2 sy sharifah ada x?

Mcm minggu baru ni...ketua kordinator sampai check ke kelas sy dtg ke x...takut pula dibuatnya kalau escape satu class pun..nanti dia lapor pada mak dan abah...habislah sy...hi2..

Tak sempat nk update blog selalu..mungkin pas final sy akan update slalu insyaallah...

Dikesempatan ni sy minta maaf jika ada hari-hari kerja atau class sampai saya tak sempat nak tegur kawan2 di sekeliling saya...banyak perkara perlu sy fokus dalam satu masa...saya tak punyai banyak masa dah..jaga diri bebaik, semoga kita sentiasa dilindungiNya..insyaallah...

loves,
sha